I have a friend who went through a couple of true tragedies in his early twenties. Family members dying, losing his job. He’s now almost 30, and hasn’t had a job in 8 years. At this stage everything feels meaningless. What would it matter if i got his shit together now, when the supposedly best time of his life is over?
It doesn’t have to be this extreme. There are many people regretting that they didn’t live or do enough over the course of their young adulthood. At 30, their first life crisis approaches, and they start thinking that they might as well be at a retirement home already.
The only time you really live fully is from thirty to sixty. The young are slaves to dreams; the old servants of regrets. Only the middle-aged have all their five senses in the keeping of their wits.– Hervey Allen
What most people don’t realize is that life expectancy today is around 81 in the west. That means that by the time you’re 30, you most likely still have 50 years of trial and error on this planet (or Mars) left. With some crude math, that’s almost two thirds of your life. If you then think about what you’ve achieved since you were born (walk, talk, algebra, throwing great house parties when your parents were away), you realize that you could start over several times, and still come out pretty far ahead.
When I was 25, I was fat, lethargic and got sick every couple of weeks. I spend most of my heritage money on going out and buying stuff I didn’t need. I hated my job, I was reluctant of rising from bed in the morning, and I lived for the weekend. I was mean to my friends and I didn’t keep in touch with my family. A true looser in every sense. But I didn’t even know that back then.
It’s only been 4 years, and now I’m at a stage where almost every day is like riding a flying unicorn in rainbow land. Four years is a long time, a decade is even longer.
So if you’re approaching 30 and you’ve spend the last 10 years collecting platinum trophies on your PS4, don’t worry. There’s still plenty of time. And believe it or not, you are more able to tackle life at 30 than you were when you just finished high-school and didn’t even know how to cook rice.
Even though you think you haven’t learned anything, it’s impossible to not pick up a thing or two, even if most of it came from video games or picking up girls at clubs. You can always make something of the skills you have. Maybe people would love watching you play games after all those years of experience, why don’t you start streaming? Create walkthroughs? Maybe you can share your ideas on finding a mate in the, for many, uncharted world of nightlife?
Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.– Bill Gates
All it takes now is a little change, and the power of incremental improvement will start rolling you down the hill of awesomeness. Start with the easy stuff first. Start exercising, and you’ll be in great shape in 24 months. Start a blog (about video games clearly) and you can have a good following in a few years time. If you’re at a job you don’t like, you can probably be promoted at least twice in 5 years if you just put in a little bit more effort right now. And if you don’t have a job yet, it only takes 2 months of writing a good resume/reaching out/going on interviews to have a decent job in line with your current skills.
You can apply this at every stage in your life. All it takes is a different perspective of time.
So don’t worry, you still have time.
This article was originally posted on www.stillstupid.blog